Porn and Erotica

What is porn all about? Can you get addicted to porn? Whether you’re totally experienced with porn, or a newbie, it’s time to really think about porn and your relationship with it. Is it healthy? Or do you engage with porn ethically? 

Maybe you think you know the answer to these questions or absolutely no idea - either way, this page is a good starting point to get learning!

Porn 101 - With Georgia Grace

Georgia Grace is a certified Australian sex coach, working with individuals, couples, and groups in supporting people to have the fulfilling sex lives they want. Georgia's training combines somatics (awareness of the body) with sexology (the scientific study of sexuality) to help her clients overcome blockages, form deep connections and experience more pleasure. Georgia also uses her popular Instagram account @gspot._ to share sex-positive education with a wide audience, and appears regularly in the media, from writing a column for GQ to chatting about sexual wellness on The Bachelor, Triple J's The Hook-Up and many more.

 

WHAT IS PORN

It comes in many shapes, sizes, forms and lengths (just like bodies) but ultimately, porn is the portrayal of erotic behaviour with intention of causing sexual arousal. No matter how you consume your pornography if at all, the concept is nothing new. However, it was not until the late 20th century that porn became the industry we know today. 

For many, porn will be their first exposure to sexual intimacy. Depending on where and how you’re consuming your pornography this can create an opportunity to see sex and intimacy in all of its messy glory. But there is a lot more to sex than just penetration and mainstream pornography does not adequately prepare those looking to gain some education in the intimate sphere the necessary tools to ensure effective communication, consent and health and safety. 

“Learning how to have sex by watching porn, is like learning how to drive by watching Fast & Furious, it’s a really bad idea” - Jamilla Jamil

To learn more view our resources below to learn more about porn addiction and explore other options for erotic content.

 

WANT TO DIVERSIFY YOUR EROTIC CONTENT? 

 There's more than one way to get your rocks off. Why not check out these additional resources and diversify your erotic content and learn more about intimacy and relationships? 

What are the good parts of Porn?

Don't worry, it's not all bad. 

When we look at ethical, consensual and mindful porn, it can really teach you about real sex, with a variety of bodies. Additionally, it can provide an opportunity for people to explore eroticism in a safe and controlled space while giving you opportunities to explore this with yourself or others. 

Sex and sexuality is a journey, so be mindful of the tools you pick up along the way, how they might influence your sexual experiences in the future, your relationships and even your interactions with yourself.

 

What are the bad parts of Porn?

Yes, there are a few.

On the downside, porn does have some shortcomings, including how it is greatly centred around penetration, the male gaze, heteronormativity and often reinforces racial and gendered stereotypes. There are many ways to have sex and not all of them involve penetration or a buxom blonde. Most porn usually doesn’t cover anything around consent, boundaries or protection, all key parts of sex. 

Remember, porn is ultimately a performance and can create unrealistic expectations about consent, pleasure and intimacy along with many other things.

 

Can you watch too much porn?

Concerned about your porn consumption? Want to know where to get help?

If the amount of porn you watch is having an impact on day to day functions, or you're finding yourself looking for more and more extreeme depictions of a sexual nature, you may be having issues with porn consumption. Alternatively, if you are having issues with sexual function and arousal as a result of excessive porn consumption, you may consider seeking help from a counsellor or psychologist or even online forums.

Hot Tips for accessing ethical porn

Want to know how to tell if the porn your consuming be problematic? Here are some hot tips to help you navigate the erotic while maintaining your morality. 

Hot tips to ensure your spicy content is ethically made

  • Verbal and physical consent is ongoing
  • Real sex and pleasure is portrayed
  • Communication is present and inclusive
  • You pay for it 
  • Research the film maker
  • Performers and Filmmakers are paid fairly
  • There is diversity within the cast
  • Safe work environment
  • Created for all viewers, beyond the male gaze

 

Concerned you're watching too much porn?

Join Wayne Gillespie as he talks about porn addiction, how to identify it and find the help you need.

Porn Addiction - With Wayne Gillespie

Paging all frisky listeners: it’s time to check out Erotica.

What’s erotica, you ask? why not find out?

Audio erotica, pornographic writing and art are all great alternatives to mainstream porn. Think adult content as a sexually explicit listening, reading or viewing experience. 

Erotica provides an opportunity for exposure to more than just a stereotypical body type, or a certain way to have sex. Providing you with options to focus more on yourself - all while keeping your hands free. 

Sexual wellness is all about feeling tuned into your own body, finding those positive moments of intimacy in a safe environment with yourself or a partner/s, and Erotica provides the perfect opportunity to unlock your imagination, and insert ourselves into the scene.

 

Erotic Literature

Steamy storytelling, leaving a little more to the imagination. This style of erotic content makes 50 shades of grey look like a children’s novel, and if done correctly the characters are way less problematic. The beauty of the erotic novel, blog or short story is that the reader’s imagination is in control, providing an opportunity to centre the reader in the experience with ample growing room to explore boundaries, kinks and pleasure from the comfort and safety of the imagination. Content is also accessible for those with auditory processing challenged or deaf and hard of hearing, there is also a vast community of content creators who share their own content free of charge or at a minimal cost. Erotic reading can also go incredibly niche blending worlds of fan fiction and intergalactic voyages without needing the production budget of your favourite marvel movie.

Audio Erotica

Think a podcast, Think a podcast, but way more steamy. Like Erotic Literature, Audio Erotica gets our hearts racing by relying on our imagination. Only instead of reading your content, you'll be listening to the sultry and sensual tones of a voice actor reading each line with such passion and intent it will have you breaking a sweat without moving muscle. Audio erotica can be described as sexually explicit audio content, usually in the form of narrated stories woven in with all the noises and sounds you'd expect from porn. With just the sounds to go off of, your mind can fill in the blanks, and you don't have to worry about watching a screen filled with unrelatable actors. Audio Erotica has a robust community on Reddit with new content popping up each day.

Erotic Art

Into more visual stimulation? Why not try Erotic Art? Erotic Art is the tag-along friend of art and culture – wherever you look, it’s there, hiding in the background perhaps, but there nonetheless. This is the sort of stuff you could fill your walls with if you were wanting to set the tone in your bedroom or just like the look of some suggestive fruit in your kitchen. In both Erotic Art and porn, there’s nudity, genitalia, depiction of sexual arousal and satisfaction. And yet there are distinct differences besides simply taste. Mainstream Pornography is focused on the physical aspect of sex and not much, if at all, about the psychological, emotional or sensual side. Erotica, on the other hand, raises questions and gives us pause to reflect, yearn and admire. 

 

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